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Friday, December 30, 2011

A New Year

It is the time of year that many of us look back and review the year. Did you accomplish what we wanted to? Did we reach our goals? Have we achieved what we want. This has been a relaxed week for me and Beautiful Wife (BW) and we have had a lot of time to talk after coming back from our Christmas visits. We had a good year with our FLR. We both have voiced things that we would like to work on or maybe mistakes made. Since this blog is from my perpective let me say that they are my mistakes and I still have a lot to learn. BW has pointed out to me, that even though I have been spanked for misbehavior over the past year and am reminded of my place on many occaisions, that sometimes my all "I am in charge" personality raises its ugly head. That surprised me to hear but I am trying to improve at listening and not immediately reacting. The problem that was pointed out to me is that I sometimes, as they say-"top from the bottom." BW has a fabulous memory, much better than mine and points out various instances when was the case. I couldn't say too much in my defense as she had me between a rock and a hard place. I won't bore you with what had been a two day pretty intense discussions but if this is to be a real FLR, which is what we both want, then I am going to have to work on it and continue to be corrected to have my brain re-wired. To be frank, I enjoy a nice spanking especially laid over the lap of a beautiful woman such as the BW. Like my blogfriends Ken and James, stockings, girtles, garters get me ramped. Not to say that I have not gotten several "punishment spankings" and believe me it was punishment. I recognize that I need that to stay grounded. But in the coming year we will be experimenting with different methods and I am to write about it in the blog.

This morning, I had started my day very relaxed, watching TV, snacking on left over Christmas food when at 9 am BW said that this is what we are talking about, stripped me and put me in a small pair of panties and a bra and I spent the morning cleaning the house. At 5'8" 180lbs. I am what you call a short stocky man so I must have been quite the sight with the panties straining to cover my good sized behind. The house looks very nice and I made BW a nice lunch. After lunch I thought the afternoon would be relaxing but she brought out another new purchase from Paddlewerx-the famous Hansen Humbler. So remaining chores were done by me on hands and knees very carefully as my family jewels were locked in a very vulnerabe position. If the chores were not being done correctly it was soon corrected by her new ball slapper, crawling on hands and knees with balls prominant and being slapped did not feel good and reminded me and I can honestly say that I was not topping from the bottom. Three hours in the humbler, I can say it felt good to have the "boys" released. The twenty smacks with the paddle didn't hurt that much either after that, although my bottom is a bright fire engine red. Looks like my FLR train will be serious. Have a good New Year everyone.


  1. Good Post Dana, I bet that humbler was just that, and I'm sure very painful. I've never tried one, and from what you said I have no desire to.

    You're lucky to have a Wife that delivers what you need, when you need it.

    Hope you both have a very Happy New Year.


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  4. I have not used a humbler on my bitch-boy. Can I ask if it is possible to stand when wearing one?

    1. and one has to move carefully too.